What is a strap-on?

A Strap-on dildo is usually composed of two parts – the harness and a dildo, usually worn by a person without a penis and is commonly used for penetrative sex. Think of it as an add-on penis. Some sets might even include a dildo on the inside for the wearer’s pleasure. It’s worn around the hips, and the stylers range from underwear to jockstrap to a basic harness. There’s even one made to be worn on the hand. Some strap-on dildos are meant to be worn without a harness, where the other end of the dildo is inserted into the wearer.

There’s a ring on the front of the harness for you to attach a dildo to, usually being stretchy or coming with multiple rings to get the best fit. Strap-ons are common among lesbians and transmasc communities, offering even more ways for people to get intimate with each other. If a woman uses a strap-on on a man, it’s usually referred to as pegging.

Which one should I get?

For beginners, a standard harness is recommended. It offers free sizing and is comfortable to wear and take off. It’s also the most common one on the market, so finding one in your favorite color is easy. Its prices usually start around 30€, making them also the cheapest options on our list. Harnesses usually come with multiple o-rings, so you can easily switch them out for different-sized dildos.

A jockstrap-harness is a mix between the harness and underwear-style strap-ons. Perfect for pack and play, this Joque harness is comfortable to wear the whole day long. Sleek enough to be worn under your clothes, it also offers sizable harness parts, giving you the best fit. Perfect for beginners, this style combines the best two things – comfort and free sizing.

Brief-style strap-ons are comfortable to put on and take off but don’t offer as much sizing freedom as some other models. This style also usually doesn’t offer sizing rings for the dildo, and instead comes with a stretchy ring. Whilst comfortable to use, the lack of sizing options might not make it the best for beginners. But most models, including Tomboi Nylon, come with inner pockets for bullet vibratos, making it an added bonus for the wearer.

The strapless strap-on is awesome, but definitely not meant for beginners. Due to its build, you can’t change the dildo size, so think long and hard about which size you and your partner would be comfortable with. There’s also no added harness, so the wearer has to make sure they can keep it in comfortably for a long time. But, that also makes using a strapless version more intimate and helps you feel closer than ever before.

Pegging

Pegging refers to a woman using a strap-on dildo on a man. And before you ask why just know that men also have their own pleasure points. Whilst a woman’s g-spot is easy to reach, for men, it requires a bit of extra work. Their pleasure spot, the prostate, is most easily reached through the anus. That’s why pegging has become so popular – it’s one of the easiest ways to reach the prostate.

The most important part of pegging is of course consent – talk to your partner about your goals and ideas before even starting.
Secondly, find a good strap-on fit for you. For beginners, adjustable harnesses are the way to go. They’re easy to take off and you can easily adjust the size for a more comfortable fit.
A good idea is to start small – try buttplugs and prostate massagers. If you’re both into it, you can look into actual dildos. Again, start small. There are some awesome beginner dildos out there, most often even coming in kits with varying sizes.
And of course, have lots of lube nearby. And I’m talking about bottles and bottles of it because you can never really have too much of it.
For a full guide on pegging, search the internet for articles and videos. There are some awesome guides with helpful tips out there!

Strap-ons for transmascs

Strap-ons are also loved by many transmasc people. When choosing a harness, there are some options out there that are meant for both sex and packing. Their material allows them to be worn for longer periods of time without getting uncomfortable. Another thing to keep in mind is choosing the right dildo. If your goal is to both pack and play, find a dildo that is meant for both. Otherwise, find one that’s meant for your specific needs.

If you’re looking for a fun dildo to play with, we can’t recommend the Cute Little Fuckers Trinity toy enough. While the whole CLF series is all-inclusive, the Trinity toy is specifically built for strap-on action. It’s cute, it’s not too big, and can be used on all parts of the body.

Be prepared and have fun

Strap-ons are amazing toys to include in your bedroom drawer. With enough research, your experience can turn out to be really amazing. Find our full selection of strap-ons and strap-on dildos from our website.